Any individual who has been a dad and afterward, a stepfather realizes that they aren’t the equivalent. While numerous parts of these two jobs are comparable, it is one of a kind relationship that leads to dissatisfaction.
Step fathering can be testing. Maybe that is the reason numerous stepfathers separate from their stepchildren genuinely and pull back from their primary obligations. The unmapped domain appears to have many land mines, and it’s simpler to withdraw than to connect with the “adversary.” But stepfathers can have significant and noteworthy influence among the lives of their stepchildren. Like Joseph, who wasn’t Jesus’ real parent, stepfathers can offer direction, love, and support to the kids to survive in this ruthless world.
All step-parents need to comprehend the emotional mindset of their stepchildren. Stepfathers struggle a lot to understand it, for stepchildren are likely to hate their stepdad. For instance, monitoring the kid’s emotional injuries and damages from past misfortunes is crucial to adapting to the occasionally irate or oppositional mentalities of kids in stepfamilies.
It is additionally significant that stepfathers perceive that winning respect, love, and authority from stepchildren is a procedure; you gain the power to lead by creating trust and association with stepchildren. You should be willing, for instance, to enter the kid’s life as a “stranger” who gradually achieves acceptance, at the kid’s pace. For some men, it is upsetting to understand that their stepchildren get the opportunity to decide the pace at which they accept them in the family. Also, it’s legit—you don’t get the chance to control your parental status—the youngsters do. They will hold nothing back from you when they are prepared. Up to that point, you should adapt to feeling wild and discover approaches to work inside the framework for what it’s worth
Yet, stepchildren fail to comprehend the crucial role of their stepdads. Or maybe it is the society to blame who sowed the seeds of hatred for step-parents. Or it the media which portrays step-parents as one cruel monster who invades the lives of their stepchildren capturing their freedom. This leads to increased tensions in stepfamilies. In these times of darkness, where the world negatively depicts the role of stepdads, one soulful rap star, is turning the tables.
Natalac Sheldon Martinez Davis, better known by his stage name Natalac, is an American rapper, executive producer, singer, CEO/Founder of Natalac Records, and CEO/Founder of Natalac Express who with the vigor of his rap, brought forth a positive perspective of the stepdads with his song ‘Step Daddy’. The song illuminated stepchildren that stepdads too can be their guider, supporter, and pillar in times of need. The rap has been written meticulously in a conversational tone, depicting dialogues between two partners. Throughout the rap, the stepdad explains how he considers it his responsibility to teach his step kids about the basics of life, exemplifying that stepdads do their utmost to make things work. All it will take to make things work is the reciprocation of the same efforts from the stepchildren’s side. Let’s peruse through the lyrics of this fantastic rap, way to go Natalac.
[lady:] We need to talk
[Sheldon M. Davis:] Bout what
[lady:] Bout yo
[Sheldon M. Davis:] What about me
[lady:] Step daddy being Step Daddy
[Sheldon M. Davis:] Shh..Hey I’m doing what I’m supposed to do I’m Step daddy
[lady:] Not to my kids they have a daddy already he’s just not here right now
[Sheldon M. Davis:] Hey I’m just trying to teach them some things you know what I’m saying if I’m gonna be here eating up your food and stuff like that that’s the least I can do
[lady:] Teach them things like what
[Sheldon M. Davis:] Like a father is supposed to teach them. What you got a problem wit me trying trying ta to teach your kids something huh.huh
[lady:] As long as it’s the right thing
[Sheldon M. Davis:] What that’s what I been doing I ain’t told him nothing he don’t need to know. You know what I’m saying I don’t care bout him talking all that trash bout why I want to discipline him and this and that, hey that’s my job
[lady:] My son has a problem. And I have a problem with that
Sheldon M. Davis:] Man I ain’t even trying to hear that he may not respect none of this know but now he’ll respect me later on it. Know what I’m saying. You gotta remember something he’s a child. He a child And needs to stay IN A CHILDS PLACE TO A CERTAIN degree you know what I’m saying I done been there I’m just trying trying to do that you know what I’m saying
He don’t have no problem eating my god damn pizza when I bring that shit in the house
You know what I’m saying that’s what it is. Why huh huh
[lady:] Step daddies are supposed to by pizza
[Sheldon M. Davis:] What wait Naw step daddies supposed to get some respect too cause I gotta job to do
[lady:] You give respect when you get it
[Sheldon M. Davis:] I’m giving him respect everything he learning from me it’s gone benefit him you know what I’m saying why we got to have this conversation about that huh
[lady:] You know you ain’t their daddy you’re just their step daddy